I wanted to take a moment and talk about the way people are “supposed” to dress after having a baby. I’ll be the first to say that post baby I do not feel my sexiest by any stretch of the word. I’m not the most comfortable in the skin that I’m currently in. People can sometimes say “you shouldn’t be wearing this, because you’re a mom”. I’ll admit that, I have been one to say “why is she wearing that, with her kid?”. Yes, I’ve judged too. Then, as if a light bulb goes off and you too are a mom and wonder…”Do people judge my style as well?”. I had to sit back and think to myself, “do I even care?”. Now, I saw that mainly because, I’m not one of those woman who walk around with barely there clothing and showing all of my goodies. This was pre-baby and still intact post-baby. I’m not one to body shame anyone because my body wasn’t had sculpted into perfection by any Greek gods. I’m perfectly imperfect. I have stretch marks, rolls, fat, and could use a nip, tuck, or some tightening. I earned it all while breathing life into my baby.
On to the part that people may be offending by and I’m sorry that I’m not sorry about my opinion in advance. My personal style hasn’t wavered or changed a bit. I’m still casual cute and fairly chic each and every time I get dressed. I don’t think, you should have to dress like an old maid simply because you have kids. Now, with that being said, I do think that there is a time and place for everything. It’s absolutely not necessary for have ALL of your business on display when out with your kid(s). Out with your man? Fine (used loosely) Out with your girls? Cool! At the playground with you son and his friends? No ma’am! I’ve never believed in “if you got it, flaunt it” because what are you leaving to the imagination? I have no problem with showing skin because my cleavage is often like “Heyyyyy” but I won’t be broadcasting boobies and booty at the same time. To be clear, I have a man and he probably wouldn’t be that happy about me showing the world allll of my business.
I had a chat with 2 lovely ladies. I wanted the opinion of others and this is what they had to say.
“I don’t believe a mother should change how she dresses. It’s more about when it’s appropriate to wear certain outfits”
-Tania of Life According to Tania
“As a mother you should always have your child in mind but you should never forget the importance of feeling good in the skin you’re in as a woman. It’s all about what fit feels right for the occasion”
-Tiffany of The Doll Mob
“Your child looks up to you, so I’m gonna go out with my stomach looking like tiger stripes and I’m four months pregnant when I’m not even pregnant at all. I’m also not going to a family picnic with my daisy dukes on and my cheeks hanging out”
-Tiffany D. Baltimore, MD
“I’m not dressing like I’m going to a night club while I take my son to a birthday party.”
-Sha’Niece R. Baltimore, MD
I made a point to ask 3 moms and 2 ladies who currently do not have kids. It appears that our opinions are pretty much the same. There is a time and place for everything. Be the example that you want your kids to follow. It’s way to many woman on TV giving off a less then stellar example so, it’s our job to teach them that, it’s not always necessary to put your parts on display.
What are your thoughts? Let’s chat about it!